YOU ARE PERFECT IN YOUR IMPERFECTION.  With humour and compassion, Jeff Foster speaks simply and directly about the journey of healing and spiritual awakening, breathing new life into stuffy old spiritual teachings.

“Regret is REWIND, the longing to change the past. Fear is FAST FORWARD, the desire to control the future. Peace is PLAY, a thrilling free-fall into the aliveness of Now…”

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WE ARE NOT EACH OTHER'S MIND-READERS

If I want or need something,
I can always ask.
I have the right to ask.
Asking is not selfish, unkind or narcissistic.
Asking can be an expression of love, too.
A way to connect through our vulnerability.

I don’t expect anyone else
to read my mind,
to magically know what I want, need or feel,
to automatically satisfy me,
without my having to speak up.

I won’t confuse love with mind-reading.
(This is a deep wound from childhood).

I can always ask.
Asking is not the same as demanding.
(No matter what we were taught).
In asking, I give the other person freedom
to provide what I want, or not.
To listen, or not. To take me seriously, or not.
To be empathic and loving, or to shame me for asking.

In asking, I discover the other person.
I get to know them more deeply.

In demanding, there is the threat of punishment.
In demanding, I make the other person my slave.
In asking, there is space.
Room for the yes and the no.
In asking, there is friendship, respect, trust.

And I don’t pretend to be a mind-reader myself!
I don't pretend that I can magically know
what someone else is feeling, wanting or needing.
Instead, I can ask them.
Respect them by asking them.
Or give them the space to speak up for themselves.
Either way, I can listen to their wishes.
Even if they trigger discomfort in me.

And I accept
that I may sometimes be stuck
in my own projections.

I am not a mind-reader.
So I never have to feel guilty
for not fully comprehending
someone else's experience.
However much I genuinely care.

And nobody else is a mind-reader.
So I don’t have to punish anyone,
or try to make them feel bad,
for not seeing me, knowing me, fulfilling me.

What a relief.
To be fully responsible
for my own happiness.

And to speak truth.

And to be fully open
to receiving it.

- Jeff Foster
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