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Can we, just for a moment, stop thinking about our lives, and instead, find the courage to actually inhabit them? Can we begin to feel our feet on the ground? Notice what’s happening in our thinking? Sense our bodies instead of running away from them into some addictive, distracting behaviour? Hear all the sounds happening around us? A bird singing. The buzz of the refrigerator. An airplane in the distance. Feel a fluttery sensation in the belly, a tightness in the throat, a pressure between the eyes? This is true meditation – not trying to enter into some altered state, but finding the courage to live; to hear with fresh ears, see with unprejudiced eyes, taste the moment as if it were the first and only one in existence.

- Jeff Foster
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THE HIDDEN INVITATION OF LONELINESS

When you're feeling lonely,
it's not the presence of another person that you're missing,
it's your own warm presence.

In search of another,
you've disconnected from yourself -
the greatest pain of all.

Turn towards the place where you stand.
Reconnect with a breath. The morning breeze. The sound of the rain. A silent cup of tea. Dancing sensations in the belly, the chest, the head.

Be here. Sink into gentleness. Watch your loneliness dissolve into exquisite solitude and a fresh morning.

There is a very fine line between loneliness and loveliness.

Be alone, with the miracle of life itself.

- Jeff Foster
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THE WORST GURU EVER

I'm the worst guru ever. I'm not afraid to admit it.

I've never been to India, and don't feel pulled to move there any time soon.

I don't claim to be awakened, liberated, enlightened, or in any particular state. That all seems so irrelevant when it comes to Truth.

I don't have an organization, a sangha, or any kind of devoted following. Nobody 'works' for me. No adoring disciples. No Yes Men or Women.

I am open to feedback and criticism. I take everything in. When I screw up, I admit it and move on. If someone disagrees with me, or criticises my teaching, I don't automatically say "that's your projection" or "that's just your ego talking" or "you are not yet awakened". I don't feel I have anything to defend. Truth needs no defending.

I don't have a guru. I'm not from any lineage. I always knew Truth was within. I always fought for first-hand Truth.

I have no system, offer no particular path. My teaching is spontaneous and not 'mine'.

I make no promises that these teachings will cure you, fix you, awaken you, make you rich, leave you in states of permanent bliss or make you anything like me, god help you.

I don't have an ashram. I do have a beard, but it's not very long.

I don't wear white. I do have a couple of white T-shirts.

I swear. I fart. I'm not a superhuman. My heart loves to break wide open. I have known the depths of unbearable suffering. I have walked on the edge of suicide, tasted the sweetness of life without hope, seen the impermanence of even the most blissful states. I see clearly that our humanness and our divinity cannot be two, and love - the kind of love that survives crucifixion - is all that really matters.

I use the words 'I' and 'me' freely. I say 'my body' instead of 'the body'. I have no problem talking about the past, knowing the past is a story. I love silence, but I love noise equally. In the space of no stories, I embrace stories with all my heart.

I believe true spirituality is for everyone. I have no interest in cults. I see the age of gurus and disciples dying, the time of second-hand revelation coming to an end, and the birth of a new kind of democratic teacher-student relationship. We are all teachers and we are all students, and we are all expressions of the One.

I don't put on a fake persona, talk in a special 'spiritual' way, pretend to be something I'm not during meetings or retreats. You won't see me attacking those who disagree with me. You won't see me secretly screaming at volunteers behind the scenes.

I don't grin with supreme confidence all the time, pretend to be 'up' or 'positive' or 'spiritual' all the time. My being embraces both the light and the dark, both unspeakable joy and the sorrow of lost universes. I don't believe in 'all the time', nor pretending itself. The image means nothing. Authenticity is the key. Even false humility is false. Even the "I have no image" image is an image, which will be burned.

I don't see myself as a guru, an enlightened mystic, a creature so very different from you, so much more evolved than you, so much more holy than you.

I don't have a winning, charismatic personality. I'm crap at telling stories, anecdotes, amusing tales. I'm not interested in gaining your admiration or your approval. I love it when you walk away. I admire you for it. I love it when you stay. I honour your fearlessness.

I do love speaking about Truth, of course.

I do love sharing this gift of Presence with you.

I do see you as inseparable from what I am.

I do see unspeakable potential in your eyes.

I am a bird. I have no choice but to sing my song of joy and heartache, and fly away to wherever life takes me.

Thank you for sharing this journey with me.

- Jeff Foster
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THE JOY OF WAITING

When you were young, you loved to dream and let go of dreams. Either way, you dwelled in the Now. When you got older, you started to take your dreams and goals way too seriously, and your happiness became bound up with the future, and the destination became more important than the journey.

Dream about what you want, of course. Have a vision for the future. But learn to let your dreams go, too, let them float off into the river of life, and bring your attention back to the present moment. Don't use a dream as an excuse to disconnect from where you are. Where you are is way too precious...

Learn to love the in-between moments. Learn to love this delicious sense of waiting, yearning, anticipating. Learn to dance and breathe in the space between the wanting and the getting, the dreaming and the resolution of dreams. Learn to love not having what you want right now. The tremendous sense of potential there, the fullness if it, the peace. Realise that 'lack' is only space, resisted. And even an 'incomplete' feeling is so complete, a welcome visitor in the heart.

Breathe into the belly, the chest, the head. Infuse the body with light, saturate it with awareness, drench it with love. Feel the fullness of the body. Lacking nothing. Wanting nothing.

Even when you don't have what you want, you are invited to want to be exactly where you are; to fall in love with the place where you stand, to contact the fertile ground as you wait, or forget the waiting and simply savour the moments.

And open your arms in gratitude, ready to receive whatever comes.
Sometimes, even the 'not getting' can be so very beautiful.

Behold, your abundant life.

- Jeff Foster
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That weird feeling
when you find yourself moving
to pick up the phone
to call your dad
to see how he's doing

and then you remember
that dad died.

For a moment
you were stuck
in an outdated reality.

I suppose this is what grieving is.
Softening over time into a new reality.
Letting an old reality fade.

The grieving can burn, yes!
But the burning itself is real
and leaves only the real
since only the false
is flammable.

The suffering is in the resistance.
There is peace in the fire.

Anyway,
Dad says
he doesn't care much these days
for phone calls.

- Jeff Foster
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HOW TO MEET ANXIETY

I was speaking to a young man who was dealing with severe anxiety.

None of the 'cures for anxiety' he had been offered had worked for him.

I invited him to stop trying to FIX his anxiety, just for a moment. I invited him to stop imagining a future free from anxiety, or filled with anxiety, and to meet what was actually here, right now, in this present scene. I invited him to drop the label 'anxiety', to let go of that word he had learned, to come out of his story of past and future and look at his present experience with fresh eyes and without history. What thoughts and sensations were appearing presently?

Lots of thoughts buzzing around, he said. Lots of mental activity. What did he feel in his body? I invited him to contact the body directly. Intense fluttery sensations in the stomach and chest. I asked him if, just for a moment, he could allow all that activity - thoughts and sensations - to be there, something he had never tried before, because he had been too busy fighting his 'anxiety'; a fight which, of course, had actually increased his anxiety! He had been making ‘anxiety’ his enemy, rejecting it, trying to delete it, without getting to know it intimately first! Instead of fighting the sensations in the stomach, could he drop all labels, all judgements, all descriptions, and recognise himself as the vast open space in which these sensations were allowed to come and go? Could he be friendly to these sensations, just for a moment? Could kindness be the way?

He started to feel some space around what he had previously been calling 'anxiety'. He was aware of the anxiety, he was conscious of it, so it couldn't truly define who we was. He was no longer trapped in the feelings. He was bigger than the feelings. He could hold his anxiety, surround it, embrace it. And the thoughts and judgements too, he was bigger than those. He was not trapped inside them - he was the space for them. They didn’t define him.

He had been able to TURN TOWARDS his anxiety, and had used it as a wake-up call, to help him remember his true vastness. He had discovered that, in truth, there was no 'anxious person' – the anxiety could not define or limit the vastness of who he was – there were simply thoughts and sensations that had been labelled as 'anxiety' and then rejected. He was not a victim of anxiety - he was now its loving parent, able to hold it as it was born, expressed itself, and died.

His anxiety didn't need to be 'cured' - it needed to be met, touched, held, in the present moment. It didn’t need to be deleted, it needed to be understood. It didn’t want to destroy him, it wanted to wake him up.

It wasn’t a mistake that he had felt anxious.

Healing in the midst of anxiety - the last place you'd ever think to look!

- Jeff Foster
(From 'Falling in Love with Where You Are')
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LOVE WITHOUT ADDICTION

"Promise me you'll never leave me.
Say you'll always feel this way.
Say I'm the only one.
Tell me you only have eyes for me!"

This is not presence, but addiction.
This is not love, but self-abandonment.

This is a baby longing for mother.
This is helplessness and dependency.
A dependency that was real when you were young.
(Without mother, you'd be dead; it was a good addiction then).

But now you are grown, you are no longer dependent.
Your aloneness is no longer dangerous
(even if it feels dangerous).

Your longing won't kill you.
Your yearning is not toxic.
Your sadness is bearable.
Beautiful, even.

And you are not incomplete without mother,
without a partner, a soul mate, another 'half'
(even if you feel incomplete).

You are not half but whole and complete because you exist.
Because you breathe. Because you feel what you feel.

Because you are alive.

Nobody can promise that
they will never leave you.
Nobody can promise that
they'll always want you near.
Nobody knows the future.

And we change. And we heal.
And we grow. And we become more self-aware.
And presence is the only certainty here.
Presence is what we long for.
Yet presence is not outside of us.

And so we break the addiction by discovering presence.
Not 'another' presence, but our own.
We break the dependency by coming closer to ourselves.
Feeling our feet on the ground.
Feeling the belly rising and falling.
Breathing into our pleasure and our pain.
Owning ourselves at last.

The only thing that will never leave you,
is you.

You.

The one who always remains.

You, never seeking love,
but being it,
radiating it from your very core,
like the Earth, and gravity
pulling everything
into your wide open arms.

Do not be afraid of being alone.
Do not be afraid of 'losing love'.
(You cannot lose love).

You are always held,
even as your heart breaks.

The truth is, you don't need another person for your happiness.
And so you can love others instead of clinging to them
out of habit, or out of fear, or out of shame,
or because you are still unconsciously seeking mother.

"Promise me you'll never leave me.
Say you'll always feel this way.
Say I'm the only one.
Tell me you only have eyes for me."

And
only you
can fulfil
this promise
you made
to yourself
before
the
Earth.

- Jeff Foster
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SACRED EXHAUSTION

Your tiredness has dignity to it! Do not rush to pathologise it, or push it away, for it may contain great intelligence, even medicine.

You have been on a long journey from the stars, friend. Bow before your tiredness now; do not fight it any longer.

There is no shame in admitting that you cannot go on. Even the courageous need to rest.

For a great journey lies ahead. And you will need all of your resources.

Come, sit by the fire of Presence. Let the body unwind; drop into the silence here. Forget about tomorrow, let go of the journey to come, and sink into this evening's warmth.

Every great adventure is fuelled by rest at its heart.

Your tiredness is noble, friend, and contains healing power... if you would only listen...

- Jeff Foster
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Breathe.
Love.
Fess up when you fuck up.
Breathe more deeply.
Love more fully.
That's it.

- Jeff Foster
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In your ordinariness lies great power.

You are extraordinary to the core, special in your unspecialness, for you are undivided from life itself, the power that moves oceans and keeps planets in their orbits. Do not compare yourself, or attempt to be like anyone else. You will fail.

For you are a unique flower, extraordinary even in the midst of your doubts, your sorrows, your pains, your longings for home. You are absolutely unparalleled, an incomparable expression of That which can never be expressed. You could never be like the other flowers, and therein lies your greatness, your preciousness.

Do not change; you are cherished by the universe as you are.

- Jeff Foster
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SLOW DOWN, FRIEND

There is no urgency. Summer does not rush towards autumn. One tiny blade of grass is not trying to grow faster than its neighbour. The planets spin lazily in their orbits. This ancient universe is in no hurry.

But the mind, feeling so divided from the totality, wants answers now, wants solutions today, wants to know so badly. It wants to reach its precious conclusions. And, ultimately, it wants to be in control.

But you are not the mind. Mind is an aspect of the whole, but cannot capture the whole.

So slow down, friend. Take a deep and conscious breath. Trust the place where you are, the place of ‘no answers yet’, the precious place of not knowing. This place is sacred, for it is 100% life. It is full of life, saturated with life, dripping with life, drenched with life.

Don’t try to rush to the next scene in the movie of 'me'. Be here, in this scene, Now, the only scene there is.

Now is the place where questions rest, and creative solutions grow.

- Jeff Foster
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