Addiction: The Search for Unconditional Love

Here’s a different way of looking at addictions. What goes to the core of addiction? What are ‘addicts’ (and we are all addicts to some extent) really looking for, beyond their next fix? We are literally trying to destroy ourselves with our addiction objects – alcohol, drugs, pornography, cigarettes, we will use anything to die. […]

Listening To Each Other

It’s amazing what can happen when you listen very deeply to someone without coming to conclusions about them, without telling a story about who they are. A few weeks ago I met a woman who seemed very, very angry with me, and I had no idea why. I use the word ‘seemed’, because we can […]

The Masculine and Feminine ‘Principles’

Human beings have always spoken in terms of the ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ principles. I don’t often use this terminology, but a couple of you have asked me to say a few words. Masculine and feminine are not two separate principles or two opposing energies, but two indivisible aspects of the same consciousness that you are […]

The Purging of Guilt

The mechanics of guilt are fascinating. The other day, sitting on the sofa, there was an urge to do the dishes. It popped out of nowhere. Before I knew it, I was on my feet, heading towards the kitchen sink, or rather, it was on its feet, without ‘me’. There was no thought in it, […]

You Will Lose Everything

You will lose everything. Your money, your power, your fame, your success, perhaps even your memories. Your looks will go. Loved ones will die. Your body will fall apart. Everything that seems permanent is impermanent and will be smashed. Experience will gradually, or not so gradually, strip away everything that it can strip away. Waking […]